Avoiding “Avoiding”
After a lot of “should do it” and “will do it”, I am actually sitting down to write this, no matter how crappy it is, I need to open up a gate to let my diffused mind disperse its thoughts. I mean, the thoughts or self-talk that I do on my walks, I like to call them “Stroll thoughts.” I don’t feel less of a Socrates myself. Maybe I have watched too much success porn on social media and kept procrastinating rather than doing the actual thing. That’s what I want to talk about today.
In the current world, there’s a quote/saying for literally anything and everything. It can be the pole opposite, but given the situation, they are used, and they also make sense. I have faced such a situation where I want something so badly that it becomes my life, and until we’ve achieved it, depending on the situation, we console ourselves by saying either “I didn’t want it enough” or “The desperately I want it, the further it slips away”
It just made me realize that we have to define and chase goals, and not the outcomes. The sayings that I just mentioned earlier are correct, but for these two things, I need to badly want to achieve my Goal, which is becoming a better writer, expressing my thoughts better, because in most of the conversations with me on writing, I frequently mention that putting thoughts in words is not at all an easy task. And it’s the outcome, which slips away from you if you keep eying it directly.
It’s the hope that kills us
I have shamelessly stolen this line from one of Ted Lasso’s episode names. But yes, the point I want to say is, the hope of having that outcome is the killer. I believe now the title of this article makes sense, because the progress on something and the outcome you’re desperately hoping to achieve might never happen in a million years. I was hoping to get some traction, go a little viral, rather than actually writing and improving upon it.
But not anymore, better is the enemy of good. I will write, I [might] will write badly, I will write something that I might look back on in a few years and laugh at it, but at the same time, I’ll also be reflecting on how far I have travelled.
In a world that is moving so fast that a pit stop along the journey seems like a sign of weakness, I got distracted from the things that actually mattered and gave me satisfaction. I always loved that feeling of writing an article just before going to sleep(something I am doing right now), then publishing it, sharing it online, and celebrating those likes, claps, and a few of the interactions from any person who resonated with my thoughts, putting an invisible connection between two human beings.
I do not look forward to any likes, as it is my personal win.